My Auntie Lil, also known as Lila, died this week and with her, that generation of my family is no more. At 93 she’d lived through incredible times, been around the world twice, known good times and bad and was mad as a box of badgers.
She and Alice (my Mum) were incredibly competetive and to see them together in later years was to still see the sisters out-doing each other. When Alice had a stroke, Lila announced that she’d had one. No visible effects, nothing, I think she just felt Alice was getting too much attention.
Lila was a force of nature and swept all before her. I remember as a child her driving (VERY badly!) Alice and me into London in her little green Mini and not being able to find a parking space. “Aha!” she exclaimed, “I know where we can park” and drove to Red Lion Square, straight into the American Embassy. A massive Marine peered down at two women and a little boy in a Mini as the driver explained “we’re here to see the ambassador!”. He let us through! And so we parked in the US Embassy Car Park and went shopping for the day. Strange but true, that.
She left her husband and eloped to Australia with her lover, her sons already having moved there in the late 1950’s. Somehow it didn’t work out and she ended up back in the UK with her hubby, then went back to Australia again! She returned eventually and once more set up home with her hubby.
After my Uncle Wal died on New Years Day 1969, Lila and Alice made sure that they kept in contact with his kids and would traipse up to Leicester to see them and their mum, Sheila, on a regular basis. They both had massive hearts and loved those kids to bits.
Before the war she worked in service for one of the Princesses, Beatrice, I believe. She worked into her late 60’s, doing silver service at Ascot and waiting upon the Queen Mum in an echo of her past. She also ran the Haberdashery dept in Bentalls in Kingston for many years and built up rather a good supply of zips etc at home - I’m pretty sure that she still had a drawerful when she died!
She lived with the tragedy of one son comitting suicide amd her husband died 15 years ago. A neighbour looked after her for years until he died in 2007 and Alice died on Lila’s birthday that year, which made her very, very low.
Alzheimer’s took it’s toll, too, but through it all her remaining son, Peter, showed remarkable fortitude and helped her stay at home to the end.
Anyone who knew Lila was witness to an extraordinary life. My condolences go out to Peter and the (sadly few, now) people that knew her.
An era has ended.
